Ari McGrew

Jan 123 min

Embracing Change and Self-Discovery

Updated: Mar 2

Have you ever wished to be more confident, successful, or positive in your life? Certainly the manifestation process is twofold for anyone who sees where they are at and desires a different reality. Are you familiar with cognitive dissonance or Alfred Adler’s 'Act As If' concept? They are not just psychological concepts but tools for real-life transformation. They encourage us to reflect, challenge our existing beliefs, and adopt behaviors that align with our aspirational selves.

In our journey of personal growth, we often encounter concepts that challenge our perspectives and push us towards self-improvement. These powerful concepts of "Acting As If" and Leon Festinger's Cognitive Dissonance create a unique tension that can guide us in self-awareness and transformational insights to why we were stuck to begin with.

Understanding 'Act As If':

Alfred Adler, a notable figure in psychology, introduced "Act As If" within his theory of Individual Psychology. This concept encourages individuals to behave as if they have already achieved the state they wish to attain. For instance, acting confidently can lead to genuinely feeling more confident. This approach is holistic, considering behavior as a gateway to influencing thoughts and feelings.

  • This approach emphasizes the uniqueness of each person and the importance of social context in shaping behavior and personality.

  • It suggests that human behavior is purposeful and goal-directed, aiming towards self-improvement and societal contribution.

The concept can create cognitive dissonance – a psychological state where one's actions and beliefs are not aligned. This discomfort can motivate individuals to change their beliefs to match their actions, leading to genuine transformation.

The Role of Cognitive Dissonance:

Cognitive dissonance, a term introduced by Leon Festinger, refers to the mental discomfort experienced when our actions are not aligned with our beliefs. It’s a state that compels us to reduce conflict either by changing our actions or adjusting our beliefs. Recognizing and addressing cognitive dissonance is crucial for authentic self-development.

Using Cognitive Dissonance for Growth:
  1. Acknowledge the Discomfort: Recognize when you're feeling dissonance and understand it's a signal for potential growth.

  2. Reflect on Conflicting Beliefs: Identify the beliefs or behaviors causing the dissonance.

  3. Seek Information: Educate yourself about different perspectives.

  4. Experiment with Change: Like Adler's "act as if," try adopting new behaviors or attitudes to see if they bring your beliefs and actions into greater harmony.

  5. Embrace Change: Be open to modifying your beliefs or behaviors based on your reflections and experiences.

Combining the Concepts for Personal Growth:

When we "act as if," we might initially experience cognitive dissonance if our actions don't align with our current beliefs. However, this discomfort can be a catalyst for genuine change. By mindfully practicing new behaviors and reflecting on our inner conflicts, we can achieve personal growth and improved self-awareness.

How 'Act As If' Works: "Act As If" operates on the principle that by changing our behavior, we can initiate changes in our thoughts and emotions. For example, acting confidently can lead to genuinely feeling more confident. This aligns with behavioral psychology, which states that actions can lead to changes in thoughts and feelings.

Practical Strategies for Embracing Change:

1. Set Achievable Goals: Begin with small, realistic goals that mirror the change you wish to see.

2. Engage in Role-Playing: Practice situations where you embody your desired traits, reducing the gap between your current self and aspirational self.

3. Use Positive Affirmations: Reinforce your new behaviors with positive self-talk, aligning your mindset with your actions.

Benefits of This Approach:

- Enhanced self-confidence and belief in your abilities.

- Skill development and competency in new areas.

- Improved coping mechanisms for challenges.

- A holistic improvement in mental health and well-being.

Embrace these principles, and embark on a fulfilling journey of self-discovery and growth.

Beyond Personal Development: Adler’s concept doesn’t just apply to personal goals; it has therapeutic implications too. It’s used in therapy and coaching to help clients overcome barriers by encouraging them to adopt behaviors contrary to their current feelings but aligned with their desired outcomes. "Act As If" isn't about faking it till you make it. It’s about embodying the change you wish to see in yourself. It's a journey of self-improvement and personal growth. So, what change will you act upon today?

References

Adler, A. (1931). What life should mean to you. Unwin Books.

Ansbacher, H. L., & Ansbacher, R. R. (Eds.). (1956). The individual psychology of Alfred Adler: A systematic presentation in selections from his writings. Harper & Row.

Bandura, A. (1977). Self-efficacy: Toward a unifying theory of behavioral change. Psychological Review, 84(2), 191-215.

Festinger, L. (1957). A theory of dissonance. Stanford University Press.


Ari McGrew, chief creative officer and founder of Tactful Disruption®️, is an adjunct professor at Pepperdine University where she teaches psychotherapies and counseling theories. She's also an official member of the Forbes Coaches Council, ForbesBLK, and a PESI global partner.

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